Week 39 of the #MFRWauthor blog hop. I can't believe I've managed to stick with this thing for all this time. Some weeks have been harder than others. This is one of those hard weeks.
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So after thinking, and pondering on what words of wisdom I could state for this post, bit boiled down to two little words.
DO YOU! Trying to fit into a mold is exhausting. It smothers your real potential and leaves you adrift at connecting with who you are.
If it makes you happy to eat potato chips with ice cream, do it.
If it makes you happy to wear colorful, mismatched sock. go for it.
Quirks are fun. They add to your personality. Why stifle that because it's not the "norm?"
As a writer, I like to give my characters little things like that so that it makes them real. Unique. Individual.
In school, I was never part of the "cool" kids or "in crowd," but I had a group of friends I connected with. They got me, and I got them. I was good. I watched my daughter struggle through high school. She wanted to "fit in" and be like the other girls. Being biracial, she always felt on the outside. Not white. Not black. No real place to call "home" so to speak. She was the opposite of me. She really wanted to get invited to parties or to hang out with the group, but it didn't happen. She found friends, but there were always something that left her feeling not quite right.
She's an adult now, smart, college graduate, and working a full-time job. Even though she's accomplished a lot in her young 21 years, she still has some of those same struggles from high school. She finally did come into her own, and she's still learning to be herself, but there are still days she calls me because of some falling out or another she's had with her friends. I tell her the same thing, DO YOU.
She still wants to be a part of everything, so when that doesn't happen, she's personally offended. Just like she has to do her, they have to do them, and sometimes those things clash, and that's okay.
The only person you can control is you. The only person who knows what's best for you, is you.
The authors on this hop are all romance writers, but we don't all write the same stories. Some are open door, others are closed door. Historical, contemporary. We all write what works best for us.
So there you have it. My profound words of wisdom. All two of them.