tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post5408434293635863530..comments2024-01-10T05:02:14.486-05:00Comments on Meka's Musings: IWSG #7: Family and FriendsMeka Jameshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-60989143874020924682016-12-09T22:00:29.777-05:002016-12-09T22:00:29.777-05:00Meka James is a pen name. My hubby and kids helped...Meka James is a pen name. My hubby and kids helped me pick out what I would use. My real last name isn't all that easy to pronounce. Hopefully it will become a known thing in my family that I write. Maybe a goal for 2017<br /><br />thanks for stopping by Meka Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-36787713494665657452016-12-09T21:56:12.380-05:002016-12-09T21:56:12.380-05:00That's great! The family that I talk to on a r...That's great! The family that I talk to on a regular basis is fairly small. Sometimes I feel like I'm leading a double life with keeping 'real' life and author life separate. <br /><br />Thanks for liking my FB page. I'm realizing that it's not very effective if I don't pay to promote so I'm looking for other avenues. I just want one platform that really lets me connect with my readers. I just haven't found it yet.<br /><br />thanks for stopping byMeka Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-81887270966107485552016-12-09T21:54:06.025-05:002016-12-09T21:54:06.025-05:00That's cool. It's good that they know and ...That's cool. It's good that they know and expected it from you. It's still a bang when that first book went out I'm sure. :) <br /><br />thanks for stopping byMeka Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-47184714415897548202016-12-09T21:53:18.408-05:002016-12-09T21:53:18.408-05:00LOL well that makes sense. I would prefer to talk ...LOL well that makes sense. I would prefer to talk about it to others going through the same struggle, I just feel like they'd get me a little more. Not always, but that's the hope. One day I might tell the rest of the family.<br /><br />thanks for stopping byMeka Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-12384877209118391952016-12-09T21:52:08.717-05:002016-12-09T21:52:08.717-05:00Yeah I am too. I'm starting to feel more confi...Yeah I am too. I'm starting to feel more confident (at times) but that's a WIP as well.<br /><br />thanks for stopping byMeka Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-33208896085012890912016-12-09T21:51:29.265-05:002016-12-09T21:51:29.265-05:00Hello, nice to meet you too.
Oh wow. Sorry to he...Hello, nice to meet you too. <br /><br />Oh wow. Sorry to hear your family takes everything as some sort of competition. I can understand in that situation you not wanting to share your work since they aren't sounding like they want to support you. :( I don't see my family being that way, but most times I feel like they won't get it and will wonder why I won't get a 'real' job or something. It could all be in my head, but something holds me back.<br /><br />Yeah. I do like writing (most of the time) and creating things is a very fulfilling experience. It's stressful and gives me a headache some days, but in the end I like being able to sit back and say yeah, I did that. <br /><br />thanks for stopping byMeka Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-36586215265463014472016-12-09T21:45:59.088-05:002016-12-09T21:45:59.088-05:00That could be it. They feel like they need to give...That could be it. They feel like they need to give you all the possible negatives so we're 'prepared' or something. My younger sister knew so it was my older sister that just found out and yes she was supportive. My family aren't big readers, but she did say she would get a copy of the book. <br /><br />Oh is that what it means? I just thought they were out to make life as hard as possible on me. LOL They take control more times than not and I'm left hoping that it all works out in the end.<br /><br />thanks for stopping byMeka Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-88551064358906376522016-12-09T21:43:54.400-05:002016-12-09T21:43:54.400-05:00I don't know why I never tell the family and f...I don't know why I never tell the family and friends. I should own it more, but I keep it to myself. Glad to hear it was well received when you told your family about your writing. :)<br /><br />thanks for stopping byMeka Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592225193233705022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-32429179190166710692016-12-09T20:45:41.982-05:002016-12-09T20:45:41.982-05:00Everyone pretty much knows. But when I wrote roman...Everyone pretty much knows. But when I wrote romance, I was still married to my first husband and his family was VERY conservative. So I wrote under my maiden name. (An option for you if you go by your married name in your day-to-day life?)Stephanie Farishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10461865229341760836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-25817526056849001772016-12-08T06:17:57.128-05:002016-12-08T06:17:57.128-05:00I have an extremely small family and they all know...I have an extremely small family and they all know and are supportive of my writing for which I feel very fortunate. But I can definitely see that for some people it works better to keep family and writing parts of your life separate. <br /><br />I should probably think more about my social media presence too. I see that you have a FB page (which I've liked), which is the only social media thing I really use just now. Ellen @ The Cynical Sailorhttp://thecynicalsailor.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-51886298916191311022016-12-08T03:26:55.298-05:002016-12-08T03:26:55.298-05:00My family and friends do know I'm a writer, an...My family and friends do know I'm a writer, and I post actively about it, but I've talked about it for a long time. I think everyone just kind of assumed I'd get there some day, so it didn't come as a surprise. Kind of a whimper instead of a bang, I guess? Shannon Lawrencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934641808195675935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-5839220844968678842016-12-07T16:26:31.628-05:002016-12-07T16:26:31.628-05:00I don't talk about my writing with most of my ...I don't talk about my writing with most of my family. It's not that they wouldn't be supportive but I just don't want to talk about it with them. Michelle Athyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01143019809716476693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-53805277448415734092016-12-07T15:25:30.315-05:002016-12-07T15:25:30.315-05:00I'm glad you found this group. It helped me st...I'm glad you found this group. It helped me stand tall and be proud to be a writer. :-)<br /><br /><a href="http://emaginette.wordpress.com" rel="nofollow"> Anna from elements of emaginette</a>emaginettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03324981140248692448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-18101890070470648362016-12-07T15:20:04.190-05:002016-12-07T15:20:04.190-05:00Hi Meka, nice to meet you.
I kind of get what you...Hi Meka, nice to meet you.<br /><br />I kind of get what your saying. I don't promote myself to friends and family much either, but maybe for different reasons. My family tend to be very competitive. Since they knew I started writing, two of them have started works of their own,. I applaud their endeavour and hope for their success, but feel as though they are competing with me and so, I've become more reclusive about my work. I know, I know, this is my persona quirk and not really their problem. Having said all that, I do understand not promoting yourself with those closest too you, although maybe for very different reasons. <br /><br />I suppose I'm also a little too sensitive and who can hurt you more than those you are closest to.<br /><br />Good to hear that you plan to keep writing no matter what, and that time thing, I don't think it really matters much, as long as you are happy with the outcome.farawayeyeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17578277501054242356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-24944948778381620672016-12-07T14:01:23.653-05:002016-12-07T14:01:23.653-05:00Ugh, families. I've found the family I've ...Ugh, families. I've found the family I've made for myself is always more supportive than the one I was born into. Not sure why that's often the case--perhaps our families feel they have to be concerned for us and the ones who "tell it to us straight," whether or not that's encouraging or helpful? I hope your sister was supportive when she found out.<br /><br />And, if your characters aren't cooperating, that's actually a great sign! That means you're creating real people, people who have thoughts and motivations of their own. See where they want to take you--that's part of the fun!<br /><br />Wishing you the best of luck with your goals!J.H. Moncrieffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045467689291025137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7775652771554156477.post-58291625551602574432016-12-07T10:32:17.000-05:002016-12-07T10:32:17.000-05:00Hey Meka. I know how you feel/felt. I didn't p...Hey Meka. I know how you feel/felt. I didn't prop my work much to anyone other than my mom. Of course my wife knew, but even for a while my kids didn't know. Then I wrote an essay concerning an event with my oldest daughter that got accept by Chicken Soup books, so the cat had to come out of the bag. Now I own it (my writing and author/poet title) and don't hesitate to tell people. It's what we do, it's who we are, and there's no going back. Keep after those WIP's. Only you can write what you have to say.Dean K Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02585231102949370872noreply@blogger.com